Why Shouldn’t We Persist in the Monotony of the Mundane?

I left my first job out of college because it lacked inspiration and stimulation. Even though it provided tools enabling my future success, finding creative ways to push in my chair at the end of the day left me dizzy and bored.

I spent my entire life proceeding that moment preparing for exactly what I had yet felt lackadaisical and full of dread. Mediocrity feeds monotony, but moving past it requires trepid steps, risk and a possibility of failure.

Is it safer to be bored by the dull and tedious?

Is the pie in the sky there for the taking or merely a distraction leaving us constantly grasping for something just out of reach?

Do we persist in the mundane because we must or because we don’t see a choice?  

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I walked both ends of that tight rope. I thrive in routine and structure as long as it is stimulating, but wheels spinning in the same direction lack vision and creativity and leave me feeling ho hum and weary.

Why do we continue to spin on the hamster wheel when our path’s destiny is fully within reach and at our discretion? Is it easier to stop short of the finish line and settle in ho hum-dom?

I can only answer those questions for me, and the fear of stagnation is my motivation. Slime accumulates on still water because it’s not flowing.  If we flow, we move down stream eventually making our way to bigger waters.

Fortunately, passing time delivers light to many things. It is the reflecting pool where hindsight and foresight come together in harmonious balance.

If the tools from our past mold and shape our futures, then monotony is a viable contributor by shedding light on what we don’t want. I left my job and found my career solely because I knew what I didn’t want. It defined what I wanted in a clear and tangible manner and that place in time was not it.

Unless you are a farmer, you may prefer to smell the roses rather than the cow pies in the pasture, but you only know that because you have smelled both.

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As I often say, ‘We are where we are because of where we have been. We can’t push water back up stream to make it come down differently.’ The past, present and future shape our in-trepid best selves to guide and direct our futures.

Monotony and stimulation coexist together and can’t stand independently because you only know one feeling by virtue of its opposition. I know how to thrive exclusively because I have floundered.

As with much of my way of thinking, time has provided clarity and the ability to reconcile my behaviors with their outcomes, narrowing the gap between what works and what doesn’t. I am humbled and grateful to grant it worthy space and attention.

My brother likes to say, “If it were easy, everyone would be doing it.” Flounder in the monotony of the mundane so you can thrive in the exhilaration of stimulation. Do it because not everyone is!

Happy New Year!

Author: Kristina Kalapos

Kristina has thrived as an entrepreneur, writer, adjunct instructor, and ski instructor. Born in Zurich, Switzerland with strong ties to her Hungarian roots. Her first manuscript, a memoir, Sailing Naked is scheduled to launch in January 2026. She has shared her instinctive passion in business, the classroom and on the slopes. These endeavors were cultivated by the perseverance and resilience exhibited by her father and grandparents who traded their Hungarian heritage for freedom. After a year in Zurich, her American mother and Hungarian Freedom Fighting father relocated to the US. Stints on the east and west coasts, the birth of her brother, and move to the Midwest all preceded Kindergarten. Despite two school years as a third grader, a concerted effort enabled her to avoid the self-perceived stigma of college as a fifth-year senior, the motivating equivalent of two laps as a third grader. She graduated college with a BA in Communication Arts, in four years, with her friends. No more wallowing in the weeds. Facing failure and pulling up her bootstraps with an I-dare-you attitude, became her mantra. The lessons set in motion the day the Hungarians succumbed to the Soviet forces paved her future’s path. Their sacrifices preceded her arrival on the planet but contributed the grit and fortitude necessary to persevere through the tumult of life. After 27 years in Chicago, Kristina and her partner live in Michigan. Her spare time is consumed by family and friends who share the love of the water, sailing, skiing, and her 2 dogs Sailor and Oliver.

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